Because I’m from farm country where people don’t like to tempt fate by bragging about how great they feel or how well their crops are faring, we will answer vaguely when asked how we are doing with something like “fair to middling.” The most positive we can usually muster is “not bad.”
This drives Z crazy that I’m not naturally more positive and more willing to trust the benevolent God I profess to believe in most days. But I’m telling you, it’s in the DNA: don’t tempt fate.
So when people were saying at the beginning of December—prematurely, in my mind—that this year had been a bad one and they were glad it was over, I thought to myself, it isn’t over yet, people. Be careful, or this year is going to show you that you know nothing.
But they kept on with their proclamations as if the year were done, and now we’re supposed to head into 2017 without Carrie Fisher.
If I’m honest, this angers me as much as it makes me sad. In the same year I lose out on the chance of the first female president (a smart, qualified woman I admire, no less), I also have to face the specter of potential fascism—or at least a whole lot of presidential ignorance, misogyny, and bigotry—threatening to swallow my country whole without Carrie Fisher to comfort and inspire me with her sharp, wry take on it all. Couldn’t we have maybe lost one of our less treasured celebrities? Death could have ridden away with all of the Kardashians and Justin Bieber slung across the saddle of his pale horse and most of us wouldn’t have batted an eye. But Carrie Fisher? Really?
Screw you, 2016. Screw. You.
There are so many layers of Carrie Fisher that I will miss that I can’t really fathom exactly what I’ll miss most. I loved her writing. I loved her advocacy for mental health. I loved her honesty about her life both in her books and her interviews. I loved her little-known and short-lived talk show, Conversations from the Edge (and every time there was a hole in the late night talk show hosting line-up, I’d think Give it to Carrie Fisher! Carrie Fisher! But instead, we’d get more white guys because women can’t do late night hosting for some reason. Maybe because of our ovaries or something?)
I could write a blog post on each of these elements of her professional life. Maybe multiple blog posts on each of these even. I’m sad about the loss of her in all of the above capacities.
But what my brain keeps circling around tonight is Leia.
Leia is dead. Leia is dead. Leia is dead.
If it is possible to have a crush on an entire movie, in 1977, I had a crush on Star Wars. Thinking about any scene in the blockbuster gave me butterflies that summer, and the butterflies were not focused on Luke or Han or any one person. It was the whole of the movie: the jawas, the Tuskan Raiders, the droids, the landscapes, the light sabers. All of it. I thought about it a lot. I read the book. I got the action figures for Christmas. When the sequel came out three years later, having the agony of that wait finally sated was glorious.
I dare say I was not alone.
In college, I took a class structured around Joseph Campbell’s The Power of Myth in which there were plenty of contemporary references to Star Wars, and I discovered all of the reasons why Star Wars had captured the world’s imagination all of those years before. Essentially, the movies relied on a narrative that appears in myths throughout the ages and across cultures. We loved this movie so much because it was written in our collective unconcious.
My feminism at the time was in its infancy, but even so, I recognized how problematic it was for me that these myths—old and new—seemed to be about the boys. It was the hero’s journey, not the heroine’s. Women present in the journey were there only to help or hinder the male protagonist on his path: the Crone, the Temptress, Mother Nature. They had no real identities or stories of their own.
Later, after grad school, I would attend a seminar on the hero’s journey and when I raised the question about what a female protagonist’s journey might look like with the speaker who had written a famous book on the subject, I was met with some hemming and hawing, and then some lame correlation with a motherhood journey that annoyed me because if that’s the only journey a woman can expect to go on, it’s still all about the men: either the ones she gives birth to or the ones she lets get a leg over.
So I feel a little ashamed that it wasn’t until recently when Z and I re-watched the original trilogy that I began to recognize that Leia is the real hero of the movie, not Luke. It wasn’t until then that I began to imagine how much more interesting the movies would be if we’d gotten more of Leia’s story, if we’d spent more time on scenes with her instead of all those scenes with a moody Mark Hamill hanging out with Yoda in that swamp.
It also occurred to me how important Leia had been to me and my idea of a female protagonist, whether in fiction or on my own less interesting journey. It wasn’t until I saw her stuffing that hologram of herself into R2D2 for the hundredth time, rallying the Rebel Alliance that I could see how lucky I was to grow up with this image in my head: a princess, sure, but mostly just a woman with a smart mouth, and a smarter mind, who wasn’t afraid to pick up a blaster if the situation called for it. She’d ask for help if she must, but she wasn’t sitting around waiting for someone to rescue her like the Disney princesses I was raised on.
Also, she gives, doesn’t get kisses.
When I hear “Princess Leia” I immediately picture that first, white-gowned Leia with the cinnamon rolls on her head and a mission on her mind: to save her people. Soldier Leia and bikini-clad Leia were of less interest to me because those versions of her were in service to someone else’s story (or fantasy—I never don’t cringe when I see her in her tiny gold bikini chained to Jabba the Hutt. The way she rescues herself is perfect, but all those moments before where she is an object to Jabba–and male viewers–are as intolerable to me as Han being frozen into a giant coffee table). Though I’ve seen arguments today about her latest incarnation as a general is her best role because she’s self-made instead of titled is problematic to me. Since we don’t get to see her earn her title, she is essentially one man’s (estranged) wife and another man’s mother.
What I’ve written here is more of an elegy for Leia Organa than it is an elegy for Carrie Fisher. True, Leia is just a character and the character is not the actor who plays her. Jody Foster was George Lucas’s second pick for Leia, and it is likely that had the stars aligned differently, none of us would have liked the movie less if we’d never known Fisher’s Leia was a possibility.
But that ten-year-old girl who is still alive and well inside of me? She cannot separate the two entities. It is still nearly impossible not to see all the ways that Carrie Fisher and Leia were the same person. They looked the same, sure, but more importantly, they shared that same acerbic wit. It seemed they had the same values. The same work ethic. The same need to call people out on their crap. (Possibly, they shared a similar taste in disappointing men.) Whatever be-bunned Leia did for me as a girl, Carrie Fisher as herself did for me as an adult woman.
They seemed to know themselves and their place in the universe inherently. You can’t really ask for a better role model for a ten-year-old girl or a middle-aged woman. At a time when girls were still being praised for good behavior, having someone to look up to on the big screen who would rebel against injustice was important. It’s still important.
So this is me, begging you not to taunt 2016 in it’s remaining three days. The year is not over. We can’t afford any other significant losses. We need our light bearers, our rebels, our artists to help us face whatever is in front of us.
Leia is dead. Leia is dead. Leia is dead.
This is perfect. Thanks.
Thanks for reading, Diana.
I loved her bad-ass attitude, in SW and in life.
Thanks for the great reminder.
Thanks for reading, Betsy. I too loved her bad-ass attitude. She was so much cooler than anybody else on the screen and she somehow managed to do it in a bed sheet with ear muffs on her head.
What a great entry!
I hope you’ve gotten some sleep since this excellent post! Thank you, Beth. I haven’t read any of her books, but I’ve always loved her interviews. She must have been one of the first celebrities to speak so personally about mental illness, which took courage and must have helped so many people.
I can’t help going back in time in my mind to pat my ten-year-old self on the back for having an early celebrity crush on Carrie Fisher (as if I knew anything at the time about what a cool person she was). Of course, it was really a crush on Princess Leia. You make a really good point about how dissatisfying Leia’s *jump* to General Organa was for us, since we were deprived of seeing her journey to that role. That void makes it appear as if she acquired that title just by being royalty, which is unfair to her character.
I can’t believe she’s gone. Like the Force, may she be with us.
I have slept. Now I feel like I need to write a whole other post about how Debbie Reynolds died within 24 hours of her empire fightin’ daughter. Thanks for reading, John.
Beth, I just learned that Debbie Reynolds died today. One day after her daughter, Carrie Fisher. Her last words? ” I want to be with Carrie.”
As parents we realize at “soul level” our truest, most valuable legacy is our children. Believe me. I’m in the age group that understands this truth. At my mother’s funeral a woman I used to teach with approached me with these words, “You know, looking back I realize my greatest gifts to this world were my children…not anything that ever had to do with my teaching career. ”
Thank you, Debbie Reynolds, for your greatest accomplishment,Carrie Fisher..
And, thank you, Beth, for leading the way to an authentic llife.
What a nice story, Kathy. Thanks for sharing it. I was shocked to hear about Debbie Reynolds earlier this evening but then almost instantly my thought was, “Well, good for her.”
A beautiful elegy Beth. Well done. It’s been almost a year already and I still barley been able to bring myself to write about David Bowie yet… Nice work!
Sorry I missed this comment way back when you made it. I hope you commemorated Bowie’s death anniversary in some appropriate way!
Oh, without a doubt. I filled the day with music, art, creativity, self-care, and as much Bowie as I could exercise!